Reasons

Do you ever wish that you could take something back? Or, do something differently? Have you ever regretted saying something? Or, not saying something? Maybe it was your facial expression, or lack thereof. Maybe it was the words you used, or the lack of words. Maybe it was the tone in your voice, the anger, frustration, confusion. Maybe it was the lack of all of that. Maybe it was your physical presence, or lack of. Have you ever experienced something like this?

I am throwing some advice out there that will help with those types of moments of regret. Maybe in saying the advice to an audience I will listen to it myself. One of my famous solutions to many problems is this: everything happens for a reason. This solution can be applied to everything, and if you actually understand then the solution can actually work. Everything happens for a reason. Remember those moments of regret? Remember how you wished you could change them, take them back, redo them? You simply can't. We all know this. However, there must be some soluton to this problem, this feeling that I am having because I can't take it back. Everything happens for a reason. Yes, you probably could have said something better, nicer, more kind. Yes, you probably could have reacted better. Yes, you could have done something much differently, but you didn't. You said what you said obviously for a reason, otherwise you wouldn't have said it. Despite the fact that we said it for a reason (please, do not underestimate the fact that you said/did/reacted in the first place. You did it for a reason), guilt, confusion, frustration, anxiety, etc. is still ever present. So what's the solution? Understand that you it happened for a reason. Not only did you say/did/react in the way that you did, but there is a reason, beyond that even. No, what you did may not have been the best way of going about it, however, there was a reason for it, a reason outside of yourself. Yes, you may have learned from it, and probably (hopefully) did. The other person/people could also have learned something from it. Despite the fact that those negative emotions are still running rampant in your mind, whatever happened is being used for some sort of good. Only when we believe this can those negative feelings go away. When we realize that there was a reason for this all, then the clouds start parting from the sky. I know this is hard to do, to believe and understand that there is a reason for everything. Once we do believe and understand this, the sun will start peaking out through the clouds. Some good had come from it. There was some benefit somewhere. Believe that.